
there is a difference between:
it feels nice to be around you
and
exchanging real feelings
i have found that it is quite common
to like to be around people one likes
without ever exchanging any real feelings
truthfully
i think this is this a selfish act
i may be nice to you
i might use certain strategies
to win your friendship and support
but if i fail to let you know how i really feel
because i am unwilling or unable
to express my true and honest feelings
because i stifle them and hold them back
and if i put on a perpetual face of mirth
seeming to express friendliness and kindness
when in truth
i have quite different agenda underneath
that i feel ashamed to acknowledge
and share honestly and openly with one person
although i will quiet adroitly complain
to someone else
then i am becoming a good actor
who can parrot the correct and perfect lines to say on cue
with great skill and emotion
according to my private script
in my own private play
a close person in my life
once told me
that his feelings were none of my business
if i told you who this person was
you would weep
how sad
as i reflect
i wonder what it was we exchanged
all those years
was it some vain ceremony
during holidays
some familiar voice
some recognizable face
and predictable behavior
that i had grown used to
and for the most part
bored with and tired of
when did we ever honestly and openly exchange
our real feelings
within the realm of love, truth, depth, and sincerity
instead these were vain empty terms
that we used pretentiously
to pride ourselves
in thinking
we were so spiritual
so honest
when did we ever say:
i feel delighted when you ...
i feel annoyed when you ...
i feel pleased when you ...
i feel troubled when you ...
i feel honored when you ...
i feel angry when you ...
who taught us to be so adept
at excluding from view
what really matters
in the heart of hearts
therefore
depart from me ...
i never knew you
are the words of Christ
expressing the will of the true God
whose true nature is true love
for love
is open, connected, vulnerable and intimate
all that proceeds from being
closed, disconnected, protective and distant
in all its vain glory
is iniquity